Every Life is a Gift: Shockwaves Initiative


Guest blog post by Georgette Forney & Janet Morana

When Robin Williams committed suicide last fall, the United States experienced a collective sense of grief that generated thousands of comments on social media outlets for an extensive period of time.

Why were people so strongly impacted by William’s death?

When death touches us personally, its impact is felt much deeper and it leaves a permanent hole where our love for that person resided. Even though the vast majority of people grieving for Robin Williams did not personally know him, we connected with his characters like Mrs. Doubtfire or Mork from Ork!  He was like family, and he brought us joy.

Over the last six years, the Silent No More Awareness Campaign has seen a similar phenomenon happening with families who have been impact by the death of an unborn child.

March For Life 2014This year the Silent No More Awareness Campaign is launching the Healing the Shockwaves of Abortion to help those who are grieving this type of loss.  This year long initiative has a special focus each month on a target population impacted by abortion such as grandparents, siblings, and immediate and extended  family members, abortion providers and a special emphasis in February and October on minority communities who are especially devastated by abortion loss.  We hope to raise awareness, heal and restore the connection they are missing for their family member lost to abortion.  Though our zip code based healing website abortionhealing.org  all touched by abortion can find healing resources and the forgiveness and peace that grieving and memorializing the aborted child can bring to a family.

The typical pattern after the procedure is that abortions are kept a secret. Whether it was the mother’s, father’s or the couples decision, the experience is kept hidden with hopes that the pain and grief will go away by denying it light. But secrets tend to gnaw at the heart and lead to painful ways to express the hurt, such as anger, depression, eating disorders, and addictions to numb the hurt. This secret pain of the abortion Shockwaves sometimes even destroys marriage and family relationships.

Testimonies of those who have had abortions describe how abortion creates a sense of isolation, feeling like they are the only one hurting, while healing can restore connection and a sense of unity amongst family members.  As people in a family heal from an abortion loss, relationships and love can once again flourish.

M4L_Generic_Meme10Every life is a gift but when a life is denied…everyone is denied the joy of knowing and interacting with that person. Look around your family. What would life be like without one of your grandchildren or siblings or nieces or nephews? Or is someone already missing in your family and painful secrets are keeping walls erected between you?

This year as the March ends at the Supreme Court we will have an historic launching of our Shockwaves Initiative with a special gathering reflecting the various target groups for our year long project.  For the first time, joining the mothers, fathers, siblings, grandparents and friends holding signs and sharing testimonies of their abortion loss at the steps of the Supreme Court, we will have a former abortionist, Anthony Levatino sharing his testimony and standing with all those impacted by the Shockwaves of abortion.  Join us for this historic gathering after the March for Life.

This is why we march – we want people to realize abortion scatters hearts but healing gathers them back together.

Please visit abortionshockwaves.com for more information.


Setting the Record Straight

A young woman recently shared with the world that she feels “in awe of the fact that I can make a life.”  However, what she chose to do about the unexpected blessing of a child is heart wrenching – she chose to have her baby aborted AND to film the procedure for the entire Internet to see.  (Note – the video does not actually show her abortion.  It mostly consists of her talking to the camera before and after the procedure, and during the procedure – only shows her face; thus, not truly capturing what was happening.)

Ironically, while this video was surfacing, the March for Life ran a social media campaign celebrating birth moms, with countless women sharing how they were either eternally grateful for the birth moms of their adopted children, or that they were glad they had chosen to be a birth mom.

It’s easy to be angry with this young woman, but we must show her love and grace and pray that she will see the error of her ways.  Commentaries from all sides of the spectrum have analyzed Emily Letts and her video, the purpose of which she says is to show that there is “such thing as a positive abortion video.”  Here is just a sampling of articles that we recommend:

‘I feel super great about having an abortion’ – The culture of death goes viral

Pro-life community responds to Emily Letts’ video of aborting her own child

My abortion story, an open letter to Emily Letts

Woman films her own abortion to show the world how ‘cool it is’

I still want to see an abortion video

Can an abortion story be ‘positive’?

Rather than adding to that list for now, we want to make a stark contrast with Ms. Letts’ mentality and the message.  Abortion harms women.  Every year, the March for Life highlights the women from Silent No More, the campaign to make the public aware of the devastation that abortion brings to women.  Our Silent No More speaker this year, Nicole Peck, said this about the abortion facility she visited – “They took my money, my baby, and my self-respect.” 

These women bravely share the pain and regret they’ve experienced – often for years or decades – after an abortion.  Watch the brief clip of Nicole’s full remarks:

The good news is – there is hope!  Silent No More offers resources and helps women (and men) connect with a program in their area.  Furthermore, last year we wrote about post-abortive ministries and provided information about Project Rachel, and Post Abortion Peer Counseling and Education.

Let’s continue to work to set the record straight on abortion and the devastation it brings to mother and child.  And as we do so, let’s continue to “love them both.”